The
Parihars of Chatapara
Thank God for
the Parihars of Tilak Nagar (Chatapara), Bilaspur. I wish them good fortune, health
and peace wherever they are. It was a privilege to have met and known these
simple, kind-hearted and humble people.
I came
face-to-face with the realities of conjugal life for the first time in the
winter of 1985. My banker husband had been newly posted to Bilaspur, a dusty, sleepy
little town in Madhya Pradesh (now Chhattisgarh). Mrs and Mr Parihar were our
first ever landlords. They were popularly called “Mama and Mami” by all the
folks, young and old, in the neighbourhood. Their lone child, Prathibha, aka “Guriya”
was almost my age. We immediately became great friends and a bond was formed that
years of separation has not slackened.
The house, of which
the Parihars were owners, itself was beautiful with a tiny courtyard and an even
smaller but pretty patio at the entrance. I had arranged a multitude of potted
plants with colourful flowers and tall green leaves that made it look like an
arbour. There were three steps that led into the house- first came the large drawing-cum-dining
room, to its right the smaller bedroom and then another larger bedroom. The
utility area opened onto the courtyard and the kitchen was on one side of the
courtyard. It was a small, spare but jolly little house- this was to be my universe
for the next six years.
Mama and Mami- no
two people could be more unlike each other and yet no two people could
demonstrate better understanding and rapport like them, either. Mama was small,
dark and quiet with a prominent squint. Mami was heavy, fair and had a marked
moustache. Both spoke to us in pure Chhattisgarhi, which wasn’t difficult for
me as I spoke Hindi like a native speaker. However, my very Bong husband and
mother-in-law struggled to keep pace with their friendly chatter. They used to
call me “bahuriya” a loving term for a daughter-in-law and I soon became “bhabhi”
to the entire gang of kids ranging from two to sixteen in the entire neighbourhood!
There was never
a more considerate and protective landlord ever. Since there were times when I
had to stay alone in the house they raised the boundary wall of the courtyard
so that it would be secure. The patio had at first no gate and was like a
walk-in passage way to the house. However, Mami insisted that it needed to be
fenced to ensure safety. They themselves lived on the floor above ours. Mami would sit at the hearth in her house and
talk loudly with me so I did not feel lonely at any point. Guriya and the rest
of the children were a constant source of entertainment and company. There was
never a dull moment and I had no time to feel lonesome.
Like most
bankers, my husband was often late from work. On one such occasion when his
bank had auditors visiting them, he did not show up until it was past midnight.
I knew he would be late so I had finished my chores and had snuggled down to
read a book while waiting for him. I must have dozed off because I woke up at
the sound of Mama’s voice, sharp in reproach. Rubbing my eyes and pulling a shawl
over my head I came out to the patio. True enough, there was Mama giving my
husband a piece of his mind. How dare the bank keep him so long when he had a
young wife waiting for him all alone at home?! He must tell his boss that this
was highly irregular and it should never happen again…my poor husband took
the reprimand meekly. He was humbled by Mama’s concern for us. The old
gentleman had been sitting at the gate, ever since nightfall, guarding the
house waiting for him to return.
Nowhere will you
find such genuine love and concern from people you barely knew. We did not know
how to repay such kindness and generosity. Every single day of the six years
that we spent in their house was spent in peace and happiness. A few years
later when my elder daughter was born- their elation was a sight to behold!
Mami declared that having a “beta and bahuriya” in the house had been very good
but with the coming of the baby all her dreams of having grandchildren had been
realized… Looking at their happy faces I was grateful that I had been able to
give them a little bit of happiness in return.
Wow, this is so good. Brought a tear to my eye. I hope the world still retains a few of these good souls for everyone to learn from. You must have been pretty awesome neighbours yourself to have received the love and affection of Mama and Mami! :P I still remember the house. It was quite lovely. :D
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